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Pattern of self-recrimination

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Somebody said the same, People are not their behaviors .how true it is ? When the man of principle leaves his rest of life for those unwanted goals which never push it forwards for something achievable.

Imagine playing tennis and hitting a poor serve. From your perspective, you blew it. From your opponent’s perspective, it was a great shot—for him. From the line judge’s perspective, the serve was neither good nor bad; it was simply “in” or “out.” What often happens after hitting a poor shot? Peoplestart generalizing —and more often than not, in a disempowering way. “What a terrible serve” becomes “I couldn’t serve today to save my life.” Their next few serves are likely to be equally underwhelming. Then the train of generalization picks up speed, moving from “I couldn’t serve today to save my life” to “I never did have that great a serve” to “I’m really not such a hot tennis player” to”I never seem to be able to master anything” to “I’m a horrible person.” It looks ludicrous here,spelled out in lurid detail, but isn’t this the way it happens in so many areas of our lives? If we fail totake control of our evaluation process, it literally runs wild and sweeps us into the spiraling pattern of self-recrimination.

So few of ways which admires us beyond this blaming frame on us. and that is about the self-esteem for those things which helps you to build a solid relation with your body and your mind.

Locus of Control Theory

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Some interesting article from Brian Tracy, you guys must like it.

Psychologists differentiate between an internal locus of control and an external locus of control.Your locus of control is where you feel the control exists in each area of your life. This location determines your happiness or unhappiness more than any other factor.

For example, if you feel that you are the primary creative force in your own life,that you make your own decisions, and that everything that happens to you is a result of yourself and your own behaviors, you have a solid internal locus of control. As a result, you will feel strong, confident and happy. You will think with greater clarity and perform at higher levels than the average person.